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Rollercoaster: Life as we know it

Nothing and no one can ever prepare you for adulting and all the drama it comes with. Don't get me wrong, it's not all bad days, best believe some of my greatest "Tadaaa" moments have been in my adulting years. 
As I get older, one of my most consistent journeys is navigating the world from a different lens. I am walking, running, and flying through it all. Some days, I take it a step at a time, because those are exhausting days, I am just trying to get to my next step or my place of rest. Then we have the good days, where I can sprint through things, I have an okay amount of confidence to keep me believing, hoping, and achieving. Then I have those once in a blue moon OVER-CONFIDENT moments where I fly, nothing can hold me back, and no one can talk to me anyhow! I know my sh*t and I am doing it!
That is a summary of life, it's a rollercoaster. Some days we're up, others we're down.. and on this part is where I slip in my favorite phrase "In all things, we remain grateful", I will extend it and add "graceful". Grateful and Graceful are two very important but hard places to be in adversity, when life is fwembaling us in the shat, we lose sight of what may actually going well around us, in my case I spent most of my time sulking, and complaining about how my leg was a mess, how this healing thing was taking longer than it actually should, but the midst of all this I started a business, I was running it and thriving at it. But most of the time, my thoughts were centered around what I wasn't doing so well in. So my rollercoaster spun faster and made me dizzy for more days. When I started mastering the art of being grateful no matter what (please note that it is not a once-off thing, you have to continuously find reasons to be grateful), I became relatively lighter in the heart and mind because I became more aware of the good that existed in the bad (The Ying and Yang theory). 
Being graceful, is another test in this life thing because how exactly am I expected to be calm, poised, and well put together in the middle of a storm? I think the world is asking for too much, and it's an unfair ask. (That's me convincing myself that my tantrums and snapping at people is just okay because I am going through things). I still sometimes do it, snap at innocent people, lose my cool and act out but in my practice and self-pledge to be more graceful, I have actually found a certain level of calm and peace, when you choose to not look like or act like your problems, somehow your environment takes a hint and you ooze better energy, and it is in that moment that you start to be graceful, you're kinder to yourself, those around you and your environment. 
Up and down, in and out that's what life is all about, we grow through what we go through (I believe this). As you continue navigating your adulting years, give yourself an A for effort because in this life thing? you can faint!


Thank you for reading💖

Lots of Love! 

Thee Talkative Aries ♈

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